Healing After HJL

The story of an abusive relationship

What's it all about, Alfie?

For nearly five years I was in what I now know to be an abusive relationship.  My fiancé, HJL (Heidi),  turned out to be someone I didn't know; by the time I realised who she really was, and more importantly, what she really was, it was too late and I fell. I fell a long way. I lost my job, my heart, my self respect, my mind.

In retrospect, I was a victim of "Gaslighting", but was completely unaware until long after Heidi was out of my life. Anyway, this period of my life is now a distant memory, a cold shadow on a bright, sunny day. I wrote a blog as therapy as I was getting over the "relationship", mainly to verbalise and attempt to align mentally what I'd been through.  It turned into a book that I very nearly published.  At the time, I felt unable to profit by Heidi's actions as that I felt would make me a hypocrite, but having revisited my words, I feel able to now let my ramblings loose on the world...

Drew Ross